People Discuss How They Found Love Before The Era Of Dating Apps And Social Media (Twitter Thread)

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Sep 4, 2022 3:00 PM EDT

It's no secret that we're all over the dating apps, and when we're not on the dating apps, we're sliding into a cutie's DMs on Instagram hoping that they'll be into us as well. Slowly but surely, romance has become digital instead of meet-cute stories and random chance encounters. Sure, we have a couple of friends here and there that are lucky enough to have those stories, but for the most part, it's not clicking for the rest of us. Twitter user HHMusicOfficial posted a tweet in which she told the Twitter community that she's pretty baffled over the fact that people managed to find love before the era of dating apps and social media. She asked the Twitter community if people were more open to settling back then, or if they just happened to be romantically compatible with the people in their social circles. Scroll down to see what the Twitter community had to say. 

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    Font - Hannah Hoffman Music @HHMusicOfficial Literally BAFFLED as to how people found love before dating sites and social media. Was settling the norm? Or did everyone just happen to be romantically compatible with the person sitting nearest to them in class? 12:34 AM - Sep 1, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @HHMusicOfficial

    Hannah needs answers, and so do we. 

  • 02
    Font - Rachel Newport - Research Midwife @RachelN76 Replying to @HHMusicOfficial and @DrLindaDykes I got drunk on a works do and kissed the guy I'd fancied all night. Except it wasn't him. I snogged a completely different guy, was too embarrassed to admit this, so now we are married with two kids. 9:39 PM Sep 2, 2022. Twitter for iPhone
    via @RachelN76

    Okay, this might be our favorite comment in the entire thread. 

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    Font - Suzannah Lipscomb @sixteenthCgirl Replying to @HHMusicOfficial The problem is here is the word 'settling'. It is a mean-spirited word that shows an ignorance of what really happens in making a relationship work: courage, vulnerability, selflessness, generosity, kindness. Sure you need to fancy them too, but that's the easy bit. 2:52 PM Sep 2, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @sixteenthCgirl
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    Font - Mubarak Regime Destigm... @ManFromMuiz Replying to @HHMusicOfficial Most of this "right match" or "compatible" stuff is fake. relationships are 80% about trying to make things work 10:41 AM . Sep 2, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @ManFromMuiz
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    Smile - Kirsty: Polkabops @SherbetKirsty www Replying to @HHMusicOfficial I spent YEARS on dating apps, and then met my husband on holiday. It was a teeny tiny hotel so we just got chatting when I heard him mention it was his birthday. I'd been single for 6 years & never thought it would happen, let alone to actually meet in real life. It can happen!
    via @SherbetKirsty
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    Font - Aaron Gowen @AaronGowen ... Replying to @HHMusicOfficial I think you might be implicitly begging a question, to wit: Is it necessary to find a highly compatible person to date, or is it a matter of two people with more-or- less good compatibility accommodating each other and adjusting their habits until they become a strong fit? 4:39 PM Sep 1, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @AaronGowen
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    Font - Suntzoogway @suntzoogway Replying to @HHMusicOfficial People weren't settling then, their brains jus weren't fried & so they were able to appreciate th beauty & humanity in others instead of discarding them bc they don't fulfill a gameified sterile fantasy checklist Shortermism & Paradox of choice inflated standards unrealistically 3:51 AM Sep 2, 2022 Twitter for Android
    via @suntzoogway
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    Font - HelloCorti @HelloCorti Replying to @HHMusicOfficial I was a waitress at a tiny restaurant in the middle of nowhere in Alaska. Couple from Nevada came in from a cruise tour. I happened to be their waitress. We chatted, they asked lots of questions. Said I should meet their son. Been together since then 14 years ago. He's the best 5:07 PM. Sep 1, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @HelloCorti
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    Font - Lucy Huber @clhubes Replying to @HHMusicOfficial Literally yes? My now husband sat next to me at orientation for our study abroad program in college and I thought he was cute and talked to him whenever I saw him after that. 7:49 PM . Sep 2, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @clhubes
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    Font - Kaile Ashmore @KaileAshmore Replying to @HHMusicOfficial It was actually way easier to find love before dating sites. Dating sides have made it infinitely more difficult. 3:38 PM Sep 2, 2022. Twitter for iPhone
    via @KaileAshmore
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    Font - chris evans @notcapnamerica Replying to @HHMusicOfficial Yes settling was the norm. Still is. ... On the other hand, there's something to be said for not having an endless supply of romantic options at your fingertips at a moment's notice. It's like not being able to decide what to watch on Netflix because you're anxious abt committing 8:05 PM Sep 2, 2022. Twitter for iPhone
    via @notcapnamerica
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    Font - Joyce @yuhsinjc Replying to @HHMusicOfficial The life circumstances that bring two people to "sit next to each other in class" are strong filters. There's a larger amount of shared context, and higher chances of running into each other again. I haven't used a dating app before, but "IRL chance" filters may be better! 2:40 AM - Sep 2, 2022. Twitter for Android
    via @yuhsinjc
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    Font - 7 14 Aron, PhD @Leapdragon : Replying to @HHMusicOfficial It was simple when I was young. Guy sees cute girl anywhere, stranger or not. Guy comes up and says "You're cute, do you have a boyfriend?" Girl says "Yes" if not interested or "No" if she is. If "No," guy says "can I take you out to dinner and a movie?" and girl says "Yes." 7:27 PM. Sep 1, 2022 Twitter Web App
    via @Leapdragon
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    Font - maryannetalbott @maryannetalbott ... Replying to @HHMusicOfficial My husband (of 21 years) does not have many of the traits I was sure he would Had to Have (criteria!). Nope. Instead he is a whole treasure chest of amazing things I never thought to seek. Be willing to be surprised by another person's wonderfulness. There's no app for that. 6:32 PM Sep 2, 2022. Twitter for iPhone
    via @maryannetalbott
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    Font - james @tvjames Replying to @HHMusicOfficial Apps probably make it easier for the shy or introverted but aren't you still "settling" even with an app? Or are you continuing to use the app even while you're in a relationship in case something "better" comes along? 7:07 PM. Sep 2, 2022. Twitter Web App
    via @tvjames

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